Fatherhood is under fire today. Even to talk about it can be taboo. I will take that risk. Authentic fatherhood cuts into the core of Christian faith, because Jesus reveals God as his Father. Read John\u2019s Gospel. Read his three letters. You will hear again and again that Jesus is from the Father. He is in communion with his Father \u2013 not just as a human being now in time \u2013 but in an eternal communion of intimate love. The bond of love between them is so perfect that it IS a third person, the Holy Spirit. Jesus repeatedly expresses his desire that we come to share in this communion; he invites us to experience God as \u201cOur Father,\u201d to pray and relate to him in that way, both individually and communally.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
This poses a problem in a world (and a Church) in which\nfatherhood has so often failed or harmed. Almost all of us have a distorted\nview of God the Father, because we are looking at him through the lens of our\nearthly experiences of fatherhood.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
We tend to take the analogy backwards. We are thinking, \u201cGod is a Father sort of like these earthly fathers.\u201d It is the other way around! Any authentic earthly fatherhood is rightly called fatherhood only to the extent that it is a sharing in and revelation of God\u2019s Fatherhood.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The Catechism of the Catholic Church warns us against\nprojecting our earthly views of fatherhood onto God:<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u2026we must humbly cleanse our hearts of certain false images drawn \u201cfrom this world.\u201d Humility makes us recognize that \u201cno one knows the Son except the Father, and no one knows the Father except the Son\u201d \u2026 The purification of our hearts has to do with paternal or maternal images, stemming from our personal and cultural history, and influencing our relationship with God. God our Father transcends the categories of the created world. To impose our own ideas in this area \u201cupon him\u201d would be to fabricate idols to adore or pull down. To pray to the Father is to enter into his mystery as he is and as the Son has revealed him to us (n. 2779).<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n These days you will find anti-patriarchy and pro-patriarchy camps in Christianity. The Catechism here offers sympathy and caution to both sides! Both are speaking certain truths that need to be heard. Both sides also have a tendency to throw the baby out with the bathwater. On the pro-patriarchy side, you will often find culture warriors who are defending, not God, but worldly structures. Those structures are much more about privilege and power than they are about a true sharing in God\u2019s Fatherhood! God is always on the side of the poor and the oppressed, and if we find ourselves blindly defending oppressive fathers (whether dads or spiritual leaders), we may find ourselves far from God! But on the anti-patriarchy side, there is an over-reaction against these abuses. They are right to acknowledge that many men have victimized, dominated, intimidated, used, exploited, excluded, and silenced. Such acts belong not only to isolated individual men, but have often been embedded within structures that silence opposing voices and blame the victim: including governments, businesses, schools, families, and our own churches. But throwing out fatherhood altogether means cutting off our access to the true Fatherhood of God. We are created to receive his blessing, and will remain miserable without it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Without God as a Father, Jesus himself would have no identity! He simply IS the Son \u2013 eternally begotten of the Father. He invites us to discover our own true identity by receiving fatherly blessing. We need fatherhood to remember our story and to know who we really are.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Any authentic expression of fatherhood is a true sharing in\nGod\u2019s Fatherhood. The apostle Paul puts it this way: \u201cFor this reason, I kneel\nbefore the Father, from whom all fatherhood in heaven and on earth is named\u2026\u201d\n(Ephesians 3:14-15). More commonly, it is translated \u201cevery family,\u201d but in\nGreek the wordplay is obvious: God is Father (pater<\/em>) and all patria<\/em> is\nfrom him. Without God\u2019s Fatherhood, there is neither fatherhood nor any other\nsense of family belonging.<\/p>\n\n\n\n We begin our understanding of Fatherhood by connecting with\nand meditating on the Trinity. This weekend (eight weeks after Resurrection\nSunday), many of our Christian liturgical traditions celebrate \u201cTrinity\nSunday.\u201d Jesus is the Son. He is from the Father. He depends upon the Father,\nand draws his true identity from the Father. When Jesus is baptized, the Father\nclaims him as his beloved Son, in whom he delights.<\/p>\n\n\n\n There are layers of truth here. The Father anoints the humanity of Jesus with the Holy Spirit and declares this human being to be truly his Son. But he is also speaking of their eternal relationship. He is eternally God’s Son – even had he never become one of us, even if he had never created human beings or a universe at all!<\/p>\n\n\n\n The Son is eternally from the Father, yet they are co-equal in dignity and majesty. There is no “greater than” or “less than” in the Trinity. If there were, then Jesus and the Holy Spirit would not truly be God! They would be somehow less than fully God.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Can you see the relevance for human versions of fatherhood or patriarchy? If our fatherhood truly reflects and draws its substance from God\u2019s Fatherhood, then there will be no opposition between equality (on the one hand) and being a source of identity and blessing on the other. That means that we must renounce any counterfeit versions of fatherhood that want to exalt someone on a pedestal. Fatherhood is never about power or privilege. Properly understood, there is an authority there – but it is an authority that lifts others up. True fatherhood pours identity into others, helping them to discover in God the Father who they truly are.<\/p>\n\n\n\n This is true of husbands and dads, but it is also true (in a parallel way) of spiritual fathers: priests or bishops. Each in different ways are a sharing or participation in the Fatherhood of God; each causes grave harm when the God-breathed authority is usurped for the sake of power or privilege.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Perhaps that is why Jesus gave such a stern caution, \u201cCall no man on earth your father \u2013 you have only one Father, and he is in heaven\u201d (Matthew 23:9). In point of fact, we do<\/strong> call men our \u201cfathers\u201d \u2013 both biologically and spiritually. Paul referred to himself as a spiritual father (1 Corinthians 4:15; 1 Thessalonians 2:11-12); the Letter to the Hebrews exalts Abraham as our patriarch. Jesus is not condemning earthly fatherhood, but reminding us of its true source.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Dads are fathers. Priests are fathers. Others are father figures as well. Like it or not, we who are fatherly have a massive impact on how others form their view of God the Father. We can heal or harm their relationship with God, depending on how we embrace our calling.<\/p>\n\n\n\n To be continued\u2026<\/em><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Fatherhood is under fire today. Even to talk about it can be taboo. I will take that risk. Authentic fatherhood cuts into the core of Christian faith, because Jesus reveals God as his Father. Read John\u2019s Gospel. Read his three letters. You will hear again and again that Jesus is from the Father. He is … <\/p>\n